Thursday, September 3, 2015

How important are your things when you die?

I have so many people interested in this  life I've chosen to lead. Many are older women like me and women that are just plain tired of their lives or being a caretaker of their house and other people. This is not an easy thing to do. 

It may start out as a little thought, "Gee wouldn't it be fun to just give it all up, get rid of everything and sell my house and buy a camper and travel? Then after a few years you start obsessing and wondering what freedom might feel like. You think you spend to much time mowing the lawn and the effin' grass grows so fast and the neighbor who has a husband to do the yard work smiles at you and sweetly asks what kind of weeds are growing in my grass.





You suddenly have an epiphany when your pampered neighbor who's holding her age better than you because she doesn't have to do everything herself also innocently asks you where your recycle container is.  You think, that you don't want to do it all anymore and you are too tired to separate your effing' trash just to please your neighbor.

You finally put two and two together and know that you are supporting a house you don't need anymore now that the kids are grown. You think, my God, I'm a slave to this house and the power company and everyone else just so I have a place to keep my things. 




 All of a sudden you start to think about your things and you start to consider what your kids will do with your things if you die. Then you realize your treasures are just things your kids will set out at a big estate sale and sell them for a few bucks each and little grubby kids that come with their moms to the sale will be putting their hands all over your nice furniture and then one of your kids says, "Yeah, a dollar will work for those old dog statues"  and you are rolling over in your grave again screaming those are antique Staffordshire Spaniels, I raised you better than this!






 It won't matter though because you will be in a "better place" and never did travel and write your romance novel or sit and watch the sunrise on a beach or the sunset in a desert in New Mexico because you were to busy being a responsible adult and you didn't take care of yourself or experience life because it was to hard to get rid of everything and you like your things and it's a scary world out there and a woman should never travel alone because that's what everyone says.

I will save how to get started doing this for another post. I will say it's a lot more psychological than physical and it's not easy. To me though, it saved my life and soul. I don't know how long I will travel like this, as it stands now, I have lots more things to do and see and experience.



I have a little video I made of where I am now. I'm real easy to please and I enjoy simple things, even cows with flies, so please, enjoy my  video and cow picture. After you see the video you will see that the pictures with this post aren't  random. The video is below.



The camera is not my friend, hasn't been since the 90's. I'm really good looking and not butt ugly as the video portrays me. I'm really beautiful for my age and must admit to being a legend in my own mind.

Please, make me happy and leave a comment and join my blog

13 comments:

Jim and Sandie said...

This is a wonderful post. Giving up stuff was really easy for me. Well all except the thousands of pictures and after seven years I'm still working on them. I don't seem to get attached to things and I've always hated yard work so that part was really easy to say goodbye to. But each person is different and it can be hard for some. Just like many who can't just can't leave the kids and grandkids. I figure they have their own lives to live and I get to visit them as often as I want to.

Dragonfly said...

So true, I have friends that would never dream of leaving their adult kids and grand kids. As you say, that's all fine but usually once the grand kids are teenagers, they won't want anything to do with grandma and grandpa anymore than your kids wanted anything to do with you as they got older. They have their own lives to lead. Sometimes I wonder if there's something wrong with me that I can leave but I guess there are a lot of us who don't rely on their kids.

Marmito3 said...

You are brave and true and an incredible woman!! I would like to buy one of your paintings! How do I do that??? Janine, Girl Camper!

Chasing Pirates said...

Diane, I lost track of this post, and have been eager to read it ... It's great! I love "your voice" in it; it's really easy to hear/to read that you are enjoying your freedom. You're right ... It's a psychological thing re: what we choose to hang onto, to let go of, to believe in. I've recently wondered why somethings/some ideas take so long to manifest themselves. Love your photos and video! God Bless! Nicki

Kelly Mutch said...

You are absolutely beautiful and I love your painting. Enjoy!

Dust of the Sun said...

Diane-
Wondering where you are since you haven't been posting
and secondly I have a question
wondering if you might offer some advice on how someone finds people LIKE you...living and traveling in their small vintage trailers. As I would like someone to come live on my property like you do...for any period of time. I'm only a mile from the 2nd largest manmade lake in America in Southern Virginia on the North Carolina border. Quanit small town of 1,100. I found some forums and links but many are defunct or postings are a year or two old. Any ideas?? thanks Mike in Virginia
matapeake AT msn DOT com

Dragonfly said...

Mike, good to hear from you. Since becoming a fulltimer I have sporadic pc access so I don't post or keep up as I should. I will be back to Ohio next summer and would love to take you up on your offer. Are you planning to make a little campground and charge? I'm fully contained so maybe you would give me a break. I am ready to leave tomorrow to head west to NM and AZ. Have you joined any of the vintage trailer fb groups yet? I don't think there are many of us that have been able to do fulltime in vintage though. It seems people nowadays need more comfort than these little gems bring so they go bigger and much newer.

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Heavenly Cottage said...

i love this camper painted. im looking for my rv as well, paid for too & paid for lol. so still working (as nurse) in columbus ohio :( there are just no nice places to camp here. so once i find my rv i'll have to figure out where to start.I have worked as travel nurse but without rv it was hassle finding housing. i tend to follow the weather. maine in summer and hawaii in winter. how can i find more rv groups of people to travel and meet up with>?